I guess to start, I should mention the issues I was having. My sweet little Alex, who I thought was just a good baby and sleeping 10 hours every night and taking multiple 2-3 hour naps during the day, was actually just being what many people call a "lazy baby". Now, I didn't think much about it at first, because Alex never complained when he was awake, just ate and went back to sleep. But then last weekend he was suddenly inconsolable, and he would get frusterated while trying to eat - he kept pulling away form the breast and would just cry. I didn't understand what was wrong, I hadn't changed the routine at all, and I was still feeding him for about 15-20 minutes. So I aked my mom and my pediatrician, and we realized that Alex was really almost starving, and my milk supply was starting to run out. So then I had to work through feeding him every hour for two days in a row, so that my milk supply could get back up. And then we had to make sure he was eating for at least 20 minutes on each breast. It was not very fun, believe me, my body was also taking a toll, especially the breasts! And not only that, my uterus was starting hurt too - in case some of you don't know, whenever you breastfeed, your uterus will contract. Some women can feel it, and others don't even notice. I was definitely starting to feel it! :)
So after that whole ordeal, by Tuesday Alex was acting normal again...except the fact that he wouldn't let me put him down and that he would scream if anyone else held him - even my husband. This didn't seem like normal Alex behavior to me, especially when he started staying up crying all night long.
**On a side note, because Xander is off-track for school, we are staying with my parents in Leavenworth, KS, right now and living in their "Mother-in-law" suite on the far side of the house. It's really just one huge bedroom, so Alex is in there with us, and usually sleeps in our bed with us.**
That was when I decided to ask about the "Crying Method" and see if anyone else knew something that perhaps I didn't know about what Alex was going through. So finally, after all of that, this is what I ended up doing:
I fed him, changed his diaper, burped him, and then put him down in his pack and play for the night...after only minutes, he began his loud cries, so I let him cry. After ten minutes, I turned over and tried to soothe him and let him know I was still there, and then turned back and tried to sleep through some of his cries. After doing that for an hour, I finally got up and held him until he pretty much fussed himself to sleep, and then I laid him back down. He slept for two hours and woke up crying again, so I fed him, changed him and burped him and put him back down. He began to cry again, but not as loud, and this time I kept my hand on his stomach and occasionally rubbed his head until he finally fell asleep after another hour. He then slept for five hours before waking up and wanting to eat. Later that day, he actually let others hold him without crying, and he took a few more naps during the day, and was talking and smiling again. I felt I finally had my Alex back.
So really, I don't know why he was crying like he did, but this is my guess as his mother: He was still trying to get his new feeding schedule, he wasn't napping a lot during the day so he was a lot more tired then he let on. And not knowing what was going on and how he was feeling, he just wanted some love and comfort from mom. Whether what I did or how I approached this situation was right or wrong, I felt it was what I needed to do for Alex. So just this morning I watched him and realized that he was his happy and content self again, and we are back on a regular schedule. In the end: MOM KNOWS BEST, And this whole wonderful and often tiring process is just you getting to know your child's personality a little more and a little better. It's really a process of getting to know the baby outside of your womb, and who he or she will eventually become. I hope this helps anyone who may be experiencing the same thing - and I just want to thank everyone again for all their advice! It really did help. :)
Oh sweet Mo. Absolutely, mom knows best! And furthermore, Alex's mommy knows Alex best! Only you can parent Alex the exact way you do--he is meant to be yours. :)
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