As many read on facebook, I asked if anyone used the "Crying Method" for their baby. Here are the replies I got (I've taken everyones names off just for privacy reasons):
It didn't work for us. Our baby would really just cry, and cry, and cry. I couldn't let it go on too long. Now though, when I put him in his crib he might stand up on the side and cry for a minute but then he lays down and falls asleep.
I never did it and I don't agree with it. I hope that when little Alex cries you pick up and hold him,because that is what they need is the cuddling and closness of mom. there is no such thing as a spoiled baby, hold him all the time, when the time allows you to. I did with mine and the more physical touch the smarter they are when they grow.also they get big fast,so enjoy all the time you can holding him. Good Luck!!! he is to cute to let cry for to long...LOL Look at that cute face.
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I don't agree with it either!! With my first I never let him cry but I spent 3 years without sleep!! And then with my second I learned to keep the baby monitor on and when he cried I would wait 10 min. Then go in... But i didnt start that until after he w...as 6 months old! They stay in bed wurh me or next to my bed until after 6 months! I have a huge fear of them dying in their sleep at so young an age! Plus they have been in my belly for 9 months why would I immediately dump them alone in a room?! When dale got older and I knew his cries I knew when I could wait 15 minutes! LOL because then he would wait ad see if I came in right on queue and if I didn't he'd stop and roll over and go to sleep!! LOL never leave them to "cry it out"... 10 minutes tops because they usually crying for a reason! If they are still crying at 10! Go in! Now both boys sleep perfect !!!
With my very limited experience, I would say there is usually a reason that a baby is crying, especially at this stage. I don't think it is possible to spoil a newborn, so cuddle him as much as you or he wants! Then when he gets a little bit older and learns to manipulate mommy/daddy by crying, then I might try the "Crying Method" and see if it holds any water. Every baby is different!
All I have to say is you have to teach your child how to sleep just like you teach them anything else. How you do that is up to you and shouldn't be judged by anyone. I used a type of cry it out method along with a strict schedule in the beginning and our baby has been sleeping thru since she was 7 months old 7pm til 7am. Every child is diff. do wat u feel is right and wat works for u and ur baby no matter wat anyone says. Good luck to you :)
Our little girl started sleeping 12 hours at night when she was 2 months because we let her cry a little. I read in the book Babywise that babies often cry to wind down not necessarily because they're upset but because they don't know what else to... do. (that is very loosely paraphrased, wish I had the actual quote.) we let her cry for 15 min then we would go in and give her her binky and soothe her a little, without picking her up, and leave. If she kept crying we went back in in another 15 min and did the same thing over again. She never cried for more than 45 min.You can feel good with whatever decision you make because no matter what, you're a good mom and your little sweetie will know you love him. Just try to be consistent with whatever you choose, a bedtime routine helps, and do the same thing every night. Once She cried from 11 at night until 8 in the morning and I was up with her the whole time. It wound have been better for both of us if I had put her down and let her cry a little so she could have a good sleep. Babies don't want to be awake all night, especially new borns because they need so much sleep, but I think they sometimes need to cry a little to figure out how to fall asleep. Like I said, no matter what you choose you're a good mom. Don't let anyone convince you that something you have decided to do for your baby is bad. Mommy knows best!!!!
Enjoy reading all these novels! haha!
Mo, I could never do that. It is my opinion that babies cry when they have a need. They need food, or to be changed or to be comforted. I know for a fact that babies who are not held develop attachment disorders. One of My little girls(you know she... is adopted) was not held or comforted consistently by her birth mother for the first seven months of life and almost died as a result. She was unable to hold food and struggled in every aspect of development. I am grateful that after only one year she completely recovered. Babies need to know that you are there when they need comfort. When Alex is 2 or so and can understand language, he will then need to be taught age appropriate boundaries. I think it makes you feel awful because it is not right for you. Just my opinion. I love you!
I don't think it works when they're super-young! I think it does from, say, maybe a year on....then again, I'm a major softie.
Your kids too young, wait a few months now would be just torture. Work on getting his schedule down and stretching awake times so he sleeps longer during naps and at night.
I hated doing that with my first baby. I would end up sitting outside her door and crying myself until I couldn't handle it anymore and went in and snuggled her. I ended up going with putting her down drowsy but awake and she figured it out!!
It's definitely based on age. Once my second baby was a certain age I would let her cry some. If you eventually decide to do this, just remember there is a difference between crying for a little bit and hysterically screaming. Some parents agree some don't. Your the parent so it ends up being how you want to handle the situation. Just because something worked on my kids I don't assume its best for all. Sometimes babies get overtired and refuse to go to sleep until pure exhaustion makes them. Those make for rough nights.
Thank you so much for all of your wisdom and thoughts! I really appreciated it! :)
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